Lillian Gartz, nee Koroschetz, 1918 |
But in this case, I find these two photos prescient of my mother's dual nature.
Lillian and her Mom. Is the empty bottle causing that expression? |
Little Lillian is lying on a bed, energetically pushing herself upward. She's adorable! Her eyes sparkle. She looks at the camera with a combination of enthusiasm and coy delight. She's cute, confident, bubbling with happiness and confidence. This is a girl who seems to say, "World, here I come."
Picture 2:
Lillian is glaring at the camera with a fierceness that would make a marine back off. I mean, that's a take-no-prisoners expression. Here Lillian looks like she's about to take charge, dress down a miscreant, tell you exactly what she thinks, and if you're in her sights at this moment, you don't want to hear it!
Mom would evolve through girlhood and into an adult with both these traits, although the first one was more prevalent in her youth. She had immense self-confidence, a strong moral sense, and clear expectations of how people should behave, but she wasn't a prig. It was virtually impossible to sway her from her beliefs. Sometimes that's a wonderful feature. Other times...not so great. But that's who she was, and once she started writing regularly in a diary---at the age of ten---her go-getter personality came ever-more into focus.
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Well, I'd pick up the infant in photo #1 in a heartbeat, but that little lady boring into the lens in photo #2 would give me pause! I'm going back to look through my own family's pictorial archive to see what lessons there might have been for those who thought to look!
Love the way you mine the Past in service to the Present!
Such insights into your mom...wish we could have met her but you have brought her alive for all of us.
These are great. I keep a picture of my daughter when she was 3 and in mid-temper tantrum to remind me of that side of life.
Hey Marian and Pat,
I have memories of my mom when she was not a happy camper looking just like the baby in photo 2. The baby in photo one came through loud and clear in all those diary entries starting in October, 2011, with "Falling in Love 70 years ago," and throughout her youth. What a combo!
Susan,
What I love (looking back -- not at the time) about our kids temper tantrums was how they could be like a summer storm--so intensely angry that I often thought that if I felt that amount of rage i could never speak to the person again who had caused it. Then, like the clouds parting, they forgot their anger and turned into the sweetest, most adorable creatures. Thank God, or we might have abandoned them! I'm sure it's evolutionarily programmed to keep us protecting and cherishing them.
Oh yeah, those baby pictures ....a story worth 1,000 words, even though you're probably approaching the 200,000 mark.
When my mom looks at my daughter, she says to me: I saw that face 50 years ago.
It's Mother's Day and it's refreshing to read this post. On a day when we tend to celebrate our mothers by focusing on the positive, it's nice to recognize that all of us have several sides to our personalities.
Peggy and Kathy,
I have some baby and toddler pictures where you know I'm my mom's daughter, but more so as I got older. And, yes, Kathy, our mom's weren't perfect people and all these gooey, sentimental portrayals don't do the mom's or their children any service. All Mom's make mistakes, whether it's overindulgence or overly tough at times. We all have to learn to forgive AND be grateful to our moms.
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